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7 Wedding Planning Tips for the Newly Engaged!

23 Aug

So sorry I’ve been away from this blog for MONTHS! I got swept away with traveling, working, and of course…wedding planning.

When it comes to planning our wedding, I consider myself lucky. I interned with multiple wedding planners when I was in college and after that, I worked as the Event Center Coordinator for two facilities. I have been to my fair share of weddings, people! I hung up my clipboard and ear piece when I took on my current job, but I still love planning and I have a pretty clear vision of what I want and don’t want (ie: I want big, fluffy flowers. I do not want a Turkish Elvis-impersonator for the reception).

We set our date for May 4, 2013, and were able to get most of the big stuff out of the way around the 10 month mark. Here are a few tips that we followed when our list of things “To Do” seemed endless!

1. First things first. Pick a date! When you are newly engaged, this is the question that comes up the most. “Congratulations! I’m so happy for you! When’s the wedding?” Talk to the important people (parents, siblings, etc.) when trying to figure out a good date for the wedding. Charlie and I almost scheduled our wedding on my cousin’s birthday, then his best friend’s birthday, then Mother’s Day weekend before we finally figured out the date that worked best for us. You definitely don’t have to work with other people’s schedules if you don’t want to (it is your wedding afterall!), but we did! Picking a date is the step that gets the wedding planning ball rolling. Without a solid date, you aren’t able to book your ceremony site, reception site, caterer, musician, florist, etc. Take your time, don’t rush, pick out a date that works for you, and then you can REALLY get started. 🙂

2. Pick a location. For us, once we picked our date it was set in stone. Because of that, we weren’t able to secure our first choice for our reception venue as they were already booked on our day. However, we found the perfect place (that we actually ended up liking more than our first choice!) and couldn’t be happier. Once you have a location, you will be able to “envision” your wedding day with that much more clarity. Getting these big things (date & location) out of the way early on will seriously take the edge off of the whole process. Once you’ve got a day and a place, it’s all downhill from there!

3. Don’t commit to colors too early.  If your wedding colors are not open for discussion, skip this tip. Maybe you’ve always dreamed of having a purple and silver (or green and brown, or champagne and gold, or whatever and whatever) wedding. However, there are other things that should be taken into consideration. Like….your venue! It’s totally possible to have the perfect color in mind, only to walk into your venue and realize… wow, that shade of green would look absolutely putrid against this orange carpet. Keep an open mind, and figure out a palette (that’s right.. a palette. Not two colors!) that works best for you. Our colors are celadon, tea green, silver, teaberry (a pale pink), and some charcoal. Having a palette rather than two colors prevents everything from looking too “matchy-matchy”.. which is a term I have used more times than I can count throughout this whole ordeal!

4. Have engagement pictures taken. This is a great, wonderful, happy time in your life! You are in that stage where you aren’t really boyfriend and girlfriend anymore, but you’re also not married yet. This ‘in between’ stage is so fun (not to say it can’t get crazy, overwhelming, AHHHHH, etc.). Most photographers offer an engagement or bridal session as part of your package, take advantage of it! It will be so cool to look back on the pictures you take years down the road and just be like, “Wow.. look at us! If only we had known…” (just kidding about that last part 😉 ).

5. Don’t get overwhelmed! This is my biggest, most important tip EVER. It’s extremely easy to get bogged down in the little details. Favors, flowers, chargers, napkins, stemware, etc. DON’T! Make yourself a Wedding Binder and divide it into sections such as “Ceremony”, “Reception”, “Cakes”, “Flowers”, “Wedding Party”, etc. Stick images of things you like in a divider so you can remember them. MAKE LISTS! Also… sign up for theknot.com. You will love me, I promise. This site gives you an extremely detailed checklist, divided by month, for you to follow. It doesn’t get any easier than this, folks! Along with the checklist, it also gives you a Guestlist Manager, a Budget Tracker, a place to save your favorite vendors, millions upon millions of reviews on the vendors in your area by brides that have actually used their services, a place to create a wedding website, and TONS of pictures. That’s not all, I just don’t feel like typing everything else The Knot offers! It’s a sanity saver! And it’s free! Hello!

6. Make a Wedding Website. I know that some of you may not be into this part, but it’s really more for your guests and family members than for you anyway! 😉 http://www.theknot.com and http://www.weddingchannel.com both have super easy templates that you can use to create a personalized Wedding Website for you and your significant other. Use your Wedding Website to give guests information about your registries, hotel blocks, driving directions, timeline of events, activities for non-wedding time, restaurants in the area, etc. Include information about your honeymoon and your wedding party, pictures from the events leading up to the wedding, etc. This is a great way to let your guests feel like they are a part of the process, no matter how far away they are.

7. HAVE FUN! Brides have nightmares about stuff going wrong on their wedding day. But here’s the thing…if something goes wrong, the only person who is going to notice is you. Your guests aren’t going to know that the chocolate fountain was supposed to be pink instead of white, they are just gonna be happy there’s chocolate with cool shit to dip in it. Relax, have fun, and enjoy your wedding!!